PHONE A FRIEND
Talking to a friend or family member can really help us calm down and get perspective when we’re feeling overwhelmed. Sometimes we’re reluctant to pick up the phone because we don’t want to bother other people with our problems, or we feel like it isn’t the right moment to “get into it.” Here are a few things to consider when we’re feeling anxious, angry, or depressed.
- Sometimes you just need to hear a familiar voice. Sure, it might seem easier in the moment to send a text or email, but actually talking to someone you trust and hearing their voice can be comforting and calming. It’s also an important thing to remember when we’re worried about a friend. Take a minute to make that call instead of just sending a text or DM.
- You don’t have to talk about “the thing.” In a moment of panic, we might shut down the idea of calling friends because they’re busy or we don’t have time to go into all the details. It can still be so calming just to call and say hi, and then make plans to get together later to talk about what’s going on.
- Listening helps too. When things feel out of control, it’s easy to just hunker down and shut out the world. If a friend reaches out, take a minute to respond or answer the call. Just listening to a friend or family member talk about their week and what’s going in their lives can help us feel more connected, more relaxed and more supported.
- Spending time with friends can help us be more productive. When there don’t seem to be enough hours in the day because of school or work obligations, the first things that often get cut from our schedule are social activities and time with friends. Taking an hour or two to catch up with a friend can help us recharge and focus so we’re more productive when we get back to work.
MORE WAYS TO PRESS PAUSE…
Science has shown that slowing our breathing helps us calm down. Research also shows that taking a few minutes to do breathing exercises can help relax our brains and make it easier for us to cope with stress and make thoughtful decisions.
Start by simply stepping aside and taking a deep breath whenever you’re feeling overwhelmed or anxious. First, take a normal breath. Then try a deep breath. Breathe in slowly through your nose, allowing your chest and lower belly to rise as you fill your lungs. Let your abdomen expand fully. Now breathe out slowly through your mouth (or your nose, if that feels more natural).
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The simple acts of getting up, getting out and moving our bodies are scientifically proven to reduce stress and improve our perspective. When we’re feeling so much anxiety, stress or anger in the moment, it can be hard to think clearly or to decide how to react or what to do next. If the situation allows you to step away for a minute, talk a walk around the block to let yourself breathe and calm down.
If you can incorporate it into your school or work day, try to get up and move around every hour or two. It does amazing things for your body and for your mind.
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Sometimes we get so caught up in the difficult or negative stuff, that we lose sight of all the good things in our lives. Taking a few minutes to be grateful can really change our perspective.
An easy way to get started is a Gratitude Journal. You can use an actual journal or writing pad to keep a list of the things you’re grateful for, or you can use the notes app in your phone or tablet. In moments when you are feeling overwhelmed or pessimistic, pull our your list to remind yourself that there are still lots of things to be thankful for.
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We all have those days when everything seems to come crashing down on us at one time. There’s that moment of panic when our brains hit overload and the only thing we can think is….this is impossible. When that happens, we have to remember two things:
We can’t make our best decisions or be productive when we’re in total panic mode. We have to take a deep breath and a moment to regroup.
And, we can only do one task at a time. So instead of obsessing over the impossibility of getting everything done…we have to prioritize.
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Here’s a super simple 5-step meditation you can do anywhere, anytime:
1. Find a spot to sit (or lie) comfortably.
2. Close your eyes.
3. Breathe naturally. Don’t try and control it.
4. Spend 3 to 5 minutes focusing on your breath and how your body moves as you inhale and exhale.
5. If your mind wanders, return your focus back to your breath/body movements.
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